Friday, June 26, 2009

Ask Curvy

So someone in the comment asked what girls like for sex if it's not jackhammer behaviour....I thought I'd throw it over to you dear readers to help out the men folk of the blog!

11 comments:

  1. well i'm into bdsm... so foreplay for me is more along the lines of making him dress up in a bra and panties and whipping him or cutting a pretty design in his skin. NOT FOR EVERYONE, I KNOW! that is what works for us. and it took me a long time to find someone into what i'm into. the actual act of sex for me works best when it's...

    wait for it...

    hard and fast. perhaps not quite jackrabbit and shallow, but i wouldn't necessarily rule that out entirely. as long as it wasn't all jackrabbit all the time. i like various positions depending on his anatomy. preferably not all positions at once though. frankly, i prefer missionary so i can be lazy and make him do all the work. but other positions can also be fun. being on top is awesome if i have my hubby completely mumified for example.

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  2. General rule is repetition is boring - the same stroke over and over. If you aren't too long, I like the long, deep thrusts, and even if you are long (and you know how to use it) giving me a deep thrust every now and then just to bring me to the brink of pain is delicious.

    I guess I will disagree with the original post as you said you didn't like a lot of positions, but I typically go through 5 or 6 positions in any given sexual romp. Variety is the spice of life!

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  3. Best advice I can give is to communicate with your partner about what you like, and ask what they like. I know that everyone likes it a different way, and each time may want something different. Each time isn't the same for me and my boyfriend, just depends on mine and his moods..

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  4. hollybeanie's got it dead on. There's no magic formula for pleasing every lover, every time. That's the beauty of sex: every partner - hell, every encounter - can be different. The fun is finding out those differences.

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  5. The original question was something like "What do most women like?" wasn't it? The answer, as hollybeanie said, is that there is probably *nothing* that "most women" as a collective whole enjoy equally.

    For me, it depends on my mood. Sometimes I do like to be fucked hard and fast (although I differentiate this from shallow jack-hammering - long thrusts are key), sometimes I like to be done slowly. Sometimes I want to be spanked and be told I'm a filthy little slut, and sometimes I want gentle reassurance and romantic words. Often I'll want all of these (and more) in a sex session - my mood'll change as we go on, and starting slowly can turn into fucking through the mattress.

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  6. I can say I definitely do NOT like it when someone goes straight for the clit. It's impatient and annoying.

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  7. New here...

    My $.02: It'll probably be easier to find things that women universally dislike than things they like.

    For example, I heartily agree that going straight for the clit is always irritating and not hot at all.

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  8. I can't orgasm from sex. Never have been able to feel it down there (and believe me, I've tried - expensive dildos, big dicks and all!). I need clitoral stimulation, and that's all that'll do it. I also suffer from clinical depression and often do not have the right desire or energy level for sex.

    I may sound boring or unlike the ideal lover, but I wanted to add to the sentiment that nothing will please every woman. In fact, if you're with a woman like me the sexiest thing is patience. I'm tired of guys who get frustrated and angry and down on themselves because they can't get me off (and believe me, they all hope they'll be the ones to magically break the spell).

    I do like lots of kissing, and I get wet right away if you play with my nipples or my clit. But don't worry about pleasing me, because trying too hard to please me ends up not pleasing me. Make sense?

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  9. Anonymous, I'm very similar to you in many ways sexually. I've only ever been with one guy though and he understands. He tries very hard and I know it gets him down but he doesn't show it.

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  10. Hey Anons - thanks so much for sharing your situations with everyone! I love it that the comments section on my blog is slowly becoming somewhat confessional in tone! People revealing cheating, sexual issues, the works. The honesty is great. I think it shows just how much more complicated life is than we can imagine sometimes!

    I too have been with a partner who couldn't orgasm from sex. I admit it became an issue for us when she started to get jealous or upset that I would orgasm. She wanted me not to, or to delay it for insane amounts of time to make it less of an issue for her. It wasn't a dealbreaker in itself, but her attitude did start to sour things.

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  11. I really like the confessional aspect of the comments as well... Seems like a good idea for a website or a blog. Perhaps a place people can confess to their "bad" deeds and thoughts, because I've found that venting a little steam can do WONDERS for my mind and stress levels.

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